Larry Wingert is not a soft and fuzzy guy. In fact, he calls himself the “Pitbull for Personal Development.” He loves to make people cry because he knows he hits a chord. His book, “You’re Broke Because You Want to Be” was assigned reading for my money coach training along with Marianne Williamson’s “The Law of Divine Compensation – On Work, Money and Miracles.”
I loved reading these books, both for their radically different approaches (one super practical and in your face and the other gently reminding us of the magic, beauty and abundance always available ) and for what they shared.
We need both.
Larry’s tough love comes through in his view that there are only three reasons people don’t do well in life. “They are stupid, lazy or don’t give a damn.” Though he quickly assures us we’re likely not stupid, he lists common excuses he hears in his work:
- I grew up poor
- God will provide
- I deserve to spend my money how I want
- I don’t know how to get ahead
- I’m not good at math
- Stuff happens
- Things cost too much
- I don’t have a high paying job
- I don’t have any skills
Williamson’s list of negative beliefs that block the unconditional love and opportunity available to us through the universe include:
- I’m not good enough
- I’m a has-been
- I’m a failure
- It does no good to try even at this point
- All the jobs haven been sent overseas
Both Wingert and Williamson agree that we suffer when get caught by our negative beliefs and argue that money isn’t the issue. Instead, what each would agree is that:
- We are born with assets beyond money – our strengths, character, and connections.
- We have the ability to create and to serve and to come forth from within.
- We have the gifts of the world, of mother nature, of generosity, of giving and receiving and of a community.
Sure, money can be an important part of the equation, it’s just not all of it.